Valentine’s Day is special. It’s a day of love – a day to shower our significant other with flowers, gifts, and romance. The expectations can be overwhelming. But the day doesn’t have to be. It’s a day for the two of you, so make it memorable in your own way. It may mean a night…
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Working toward growth and connection (when possible) can do wonders for your relationship.
Navigating changes in your spouse can be difficult and serious. How serious? If changes in your spouse cause you emotional or physical harm, consider reevaluating your relationship to determine if your situation is safe. That serious. Short of that, even well-intentioned, positive changes in your spouse can still be distressing, frustrating, and confusing. Change! =…
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When you handle disappointment well, you can grow closer.
Disappointment is a revelation. Disappointment in marriage – doubly so. Sadly, we usually don’t sit with it long enough to learn all we should. When you disappoint your spouse, you are faced with several choices. We’ll look at some practical actions you can take, but first, you need to address your relationship with disappointment. Remember,…
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Happy New Year! Did you make all your resolutions? What are your goals for this year? Whether you made some or not, I’d like to challenge you to add one resolution: Make this year one of growth for your marriage. Marriage isn’t easy, but a great marriage is achievable with intentionality and commitment. You can…
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A healthy response to disappointment can be a game-changer for your marriage.
Disappointment hurts, especially from the one you love the most. And when your spouse disappoints you, you probably experience several emotions. Anger. Frustration. Hurt. Sadness. Bewilderment. (What were they thinking? Right?) Disappointment in your spouse can spark uncertainty and shake your trust. It might even make you wonder if you can rely on them at…
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Being thankful in marriage is packed with research-backed benefits! I know… this sounds like the beginning of a cheesy infomercial. But unlike many infomercials, this little factoid really is backed by science. Studies show that expressing gratitude for your spouse strengthens your marriage.1 Being thankful is associated with increased long-term happiness in marriage.2 Being thankful…
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Ever had the same old fight over and over? Do you wonder why, or what in the world you can do about it? Well, there’s good news and bad news. The good news is, disagreeing with your spouse is normal. The bad news? According to Dr. John Gottman’s research, 69% of problems in relationships are…
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These skills can take your talk to the next level.
It’s not exactly news that healthy communication is the foundation of a happy and satisfying marriage. But let’s be honest: As you interact with the one you love the most, it’s easy to let healthy communication habits slip. Marital communication is a skill. And like any other skill, you can learn and constantly improve upon…
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Disagreements provide opportunities to problem-solve together.
Some things in marriage are inevitable, like conflict. But wait. Isn’t the point of marriage to avoid conflict? To live in marital bliss and peace, happily ever after? It’s commonly thought the less you fight, the healthier your marriage. As a matter of fact, both researchers and counselors seem to agree some conflict is not…
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Getting along may take time, effort, and patience.
As a newlywed, establishing and navigating relationships with in-laws can be filled with tension and pitfalls. I recall the first significant conversation with my in-laws when I felt disrespected and disconnected. The conversation went something like this: “Hey, you never call. You never come by. Do you not like us?” I remember trying to gather…
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You can show them you value their emotions with these tips.
Your spouse: “I can’t believe you got lunch with Tim and Stacey without me. You know I would have liked to come, but instead, I was home alone with the kids. I wish you had told me.” You: “It was just a last-minute thing. I’m sure we’ll see them again soon. You’re overreacting.” Time out!…
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While friends are a good thing, how they impact your marriage matters.
So, your wife has that one friend you think she always wants to talk about your problems with? Or your husband has a buddy that you think he wants to spend more time with than you? Have you ever felt that friends get in the way of your marriage? Friendships are essential, but they can…
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I have been a resentful spouse. My spouse has also resented me. Coming up on 28 years of marriage, my wife and I have five children, and we’ve seen it all. From socks that never made it to the hamper, to financially disastrous decisions, to weaponized sex, to disagreements about parenting, to not getting simple…
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Marriage is about more than just doing things together.
You and your spouse are making plans for the weekend. You want to spend Sunday afternoon watching sports, your spouse wants to go hiking. Neither of you has any interest in the other activity. Should you compromise? Should you just do what you want? What does this mean for your relationship? Are you even compatible?…
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Suppose you’ve been married a few years or even a few months. In that case, you may have noticed that there’s a subtle emotional seesaw present. Resentment toward your spouse sits on one side and compassion sits on the other. Don’t worry; it’s in all marriages, although many of us may not even recognize it.…
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Taking the time to self-reflect can help you find out.
Has your spouse accused you of being passive-aggressive? Maybe they say you’re manipulative. Maybe they tell you that you never speak your mind. Sometimes it may seem like you’ve gained the upper hand in disagreements, but it still feels like the relationship never wins. Are you passive-aggressive or being falsely accused? Well, let’s look at…
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Newsflash: Sometimes your spouse is going to make you plain mad. (Not to mention you’ll inevitably do something to annoy the heck out of them.) Something is said, something is done without you being informed, something is left undone… And the blood starts to boil. Being angry is perfectly normal, and usually, things can be…
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When the trust was broken in my marriage, I wondered if we could survive without it. Trust is a cornerstone of marriage. When we trust our partner, we feel emotionally safe with them. This safety allows for deeper connection and drives us to endure tough times when they arise. Trust is not only important for…
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5 Ways to Make this Valentine’s Special
Valentine’s Day is special. It’s a day of love – a day to shower our significant other with flowers, gifts, and romance. The expectations can be overwhelming. But the day doesn’t have to be. It’s a day for the two of you, so make it memorable in your own way. It may mean a night…
What To Do When Your Spouse Has Changed
Navigating changes in your spouse can be difficult and serious. How serious? If changes in your spouse cause you emotional or physical harm, consider reevaluating your relationship to determine if your situation is safe. That serious. Short of that, even well-intentioned, positive changes in your spouse can still be distressing, frustrating, and confusing. Change! =…
What To Do When You Disappoint Your Spouse
Disappointment is a revelation. Disappointment in marriage – doubly so. Sadly, we usually don’t sit with it long enough to learn all we should. When you disappoint your spouse, you are faced with several choices. We’ll look at some practical actions you can take, but first, you need to address your relationship with disappointment. Remember,…
Six Good Habits to Start for Your Marriage in the New Year
Happy New Year! Did you make all your resolutions? What are your goals for this year? Whether you made some or not, I’d like to challenge you to add one resolution: Make this year one of growth for your marriage. Marriage isn’t easy, but a great marriage is achievable with intentionality and commitment. You can…
What to Do When Your Spouse Disappoints You
Disappointment hurts, especially from the one you love the most. And when your spouse disappoints you, you probably experience several emotions. Anger. Frustration. Hurt. Sadness. Bewilderment. (What were they thinking? Right?) Disappointment in your spouse can spark uncertainty and shake your trust. It might even make you wonder if you can rely on them at…
What to Do When Your Spouse Has a Low Sex Drive
How differing drives can cause tension – and what to do about it!
5 Keys to Being Thankful in Marriage
Being thankful in marriage is packed with research-backed benefits! I know… this sounds like the beginning of a cheesy infomercial. But unlike many infomercials, this little factoid really is backed by science. Studies show that expressing gratitude for your spouse strengthens your marriage.1 Being thankful is associated with increased long-term happiness in marriage.2 Being thankful…
What to Do When You Disagree With Your Spouse
Ever had the same old fight over and over? Do you wonder why, or what in the world you can do about it? Well, there’s good news and bad news. The good news is, disagreeing with your spouse is normal. The bad news? According to Dr. John Gottman’s research, 69% of problems in relationships are…
Are You Married To A Narcissist?
5 Tools for Healthy Communication in Marriage
It’s not exactly news that healthy communication is the foundation of a happy and satisfying marriage. But let’s be honest: As you interact with the one you love the most, it’s easy to let healthy communication habits slip. Marital communication is a skill. And like any other skill, you can learn and constantly improve upon…
Is Conflict in Marriage Inevitable?
Some things in marriage are inevitable, like conflict. But wait. Isn’t the point of marriage to avoid conflict? To live in marital bliss and peace, happily ever after? It’s commonly thought the less you fight, the healthier your marriage. As a matter of fact, both researchers and counselors seem to agree some conflict is not…
5 Tips for Distancing From Your In-Laws
As a newlywed, establishing and navigating relationships with in-laws can be filled with tension and pitfalls. I recall the first significant conversation with my in-laws when I felt disrespected and disconnected. The conversation went something like this: “Hey, you never call. You never come by. Do you not like us?” I remember trying to gather…
How to Validate Your Spouse’s Feelings
Your spouse: “I can’t believe you got lunch with Tim and Stacey without me. You know I would have liked to come, but instead, I was home alone with the kids. I wish you had told me.” You: “It was just a last-minute thing. I’m sure we’ll see them again soon. You’re overreacting.” Time out!…
What to Do When Friends Are Hurting Your Marriage
So, your wife has that one friend you think she always wants to talk about your problems with? Or your husband has a buddy that you think he wants to spend more time with than you? Have you ever felt that friends get in the way of your marriage? Friendships are essential, but they can…
Working Through Resentment With Your Spouse
I have been a resentful spouse. My spouse has also resented me. Coming up on 28 years of marriage, my wife and I have five children, and we’ve seen it all. From socks that never made it to the hamper, to financially disastrous decisions, to weaponized sex, to disagreements about parenting, to not getting simple…
Do My Spouse and I Need Common Interests?
You and your spouse are making plans for the weekend. You want to spend Sunday afternoon watching sports, your spouse wants to go hiking. Neither of you has any interest in the other activity. Should you compromise? Should you just do what you want? What does this mean for your relationship? Are you even compatible?…
5 Ways to Reduce Resentment in Your Marriage
Suppose you’ve been married a few years or even a few months. In that case, you may have noticed that there’s a subtle emotional seesaw present. Resentment toward your spouse sits on one side and compassion sits on the other. Don’t worry; it’s in all marriages, although many of us may not even recognize it.…
5 Ways to Tell If You’re a Passive-Aggressive Spouse
Has your spouse accused you of being passive-aggressive? Maybe they say you’re manipulative. Maybe they tell you that you never speak your mind. Sometimes it may seem like you’ve gained the upper hand in disagreements, but it still feels like the relationship never wins. Are you passive-aggressive or being falsely accused? Well, let’s look at…
How to End Passive Aggressive Behavior in Marriage
Newsflash: Sometimes your spouse is going to make you plain mad. (Not to mention you’ll inevitably do something to annoy the heck out of them.) Something is said, something is done without you being informed, something is left undone… And the blood starts to boil. Being angry is perfectly normal, and usually, things can be…
Can A Marriage Survive Without Trust?
When the trust was broken in my marriage, I wondered if we could survive without it. Trust is a cornerstone of marriage. When we trust our partner, we feel emotionally safe with them. This safety allows for deeper connection and drives us to endure tough times when they arise. Trust is not only important for…
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