Communication can take your marriage from hopeless to hopeful.
You started out with such great intentions, but today your marriage is floundering. The emotional pain runs deep, and both of you struggle with a sense of bewilderment. How can your relationship be in such turmoil when it started out so strong?”I encounter many couples who find themselves in this exact place,” says Pam Johnson, a licensed clinical social worker.
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If one partner is willing to work at it, the marriage has a chance.
Believe it or not, many couples are just trying to make it through the holidays before filing for divorce. Nothing they have tried is working, so they assume divorce is the answer.Most people believe it takes two dedicated partners to salvage a troubled marriage. Michele Weiner-Davis, internationally-known relationship expert and author of the best-selling book Divorce Busting, disagrees.
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Don't let a screen distract you from your most important relationship.
Does media use really impact marital quality?This question has been swirling around in the minds of many for more than a decade. According to attorneys, the use of social media impacts divorce cases now more than ever before. Counselors also say it is increasingly common for couples to argue about media use in a marriage counseling session.You only have to look around to see how media use impacts marriages.
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Healthy marriages benefit children and society as a whole.
Popular shows like Married by America or The Bachelor might lead you to believe that marriage, which has been declining for 30 years, is making a comeback. But look closely at these shows: their focus is more on romantic relationships and lavish weddings.Is marriage only about fulfilling our emotional needs, or is it something more?According to Dr. David Popenoe, co-director of Rutgers’ National Marriage Project, marriage means much more than that.“What people seem to have forgotten is one very …
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Have you “friended” an old flame on Facebook without telling your spouse?Once you marry, is it OK to have close friends of the opposite sex?If asked to choose between going out with your friends or staying home with your spouse, which would you prefer?Do you discuss details about your marriage relationship with your parents?How you answer these questions can have a dramatic impact on your current or future marriage relationship.Most people are excited about spending the rest of their…
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Improving your skills is great for your relationship!
Research on what makes marriage work indicates that happy and healthy couples demonstrate a ratio of 5:1 positive to negative behaviors in their relationship.This means there are five times as many positive interactions between happy couples (i.e. listening, validating the other person, using soft words, expressing appreciation, affirmation, physical affection, compliments, etc.) as there are negative (i.e. raising one’s voice, stating a complaint, or expressing one’s anger).Tips for improving t…
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Sally, an outdoor enthusiast, is happily married to her husband, Sam, a computer buff.* Instead of nagging Sam about not being outside with her, Sally joined a weekly hiking club to meet her need to experience the great outdoors. Sally made lots of new friends. On hikes they would talk about kids, spouses, etc.
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Marriage expert and creator of divorcebusting.com, Michele Weiner-Davis, and her husband Jim have been married for more than 30 years. Since Weiner-Davis is an expert, you might assume that marriage would be easy.“Expert or not, marriage is hard work,” says Weiner-Davis. “At times you consider quitting.
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David H. Olson, founder of Life Innovations and one of the creators of the Prepare/Enrich marriage enrichment tools, has surveyed 21,501 married couples in all 50 states to identify the top ten strengths of happy marriages.Research shows the strongest couples are those who have strong communication skills, a clear sense of closeness as a couple, flexibility, personal compatibility and good conflict management skills.In strong marriages, there is a balance between separateness and togetherness. T…
As people marry later in life, many are bringing long-term opposite-sex friendships into their marriage relationship. While the friendships were great during singlehood, in marriage, it can be hard to know if these opposite-sex friends are ok. “I think it is OK for married people to have opposite-sex friends,” says Lisa Stewart. “However, I believe…
On the Verge of Divorce?
You started out with such great intentions, but today your marriage is floundering. The emotional pain runs deep, and both of you struggle with a sense of bewilderment. How can your relationship be in such turmoil when it started out so strong?”I encounter many couples who find themselves in this exact place,” says Pam Johnson, a licensed clinical social worker.
Holding Out Hope for Marriage
Believe it or not, many couples are just trying to make it through the holidays before filing for divorce. Nothing they have tried is working, so they assume divorce is the answer.Most people believe it takes two dedicated partners to salvage a troubled marriage. Michele Weiner-Davis, internationally-known relationship expert and author of the best-selling book Divorce Busting, disagrees.
Retirement and Marriage
Neal and Pat Smith had a pretty consistent routine for 38 of their 50-plus years of marriage. Mr. Smith went to work and Mrs.
4 Ways You Can Protect Your Marriage From Social Media
Does media use really impact marital quality?This question has been swirling around in the minds of many for more than a decade. According to attorneys, the use of social media impacts divorce cases now more than ever before. Counselors also say it is increasingly common for couples to argue about media use in a marriage counseling session.You only have to look around to see how media use impacts marriages.
What’s The Point of Marriage?
Popular shows like Married by America or The Bachelor might lead you to believe that marriage, which has been declining for 30 years, is making a comeback. But look closely at these shows: their focus is more on romantic relationships and lavish weddings.Is marriage only about fulfilling our emotional needs, or is it something more?According to Dr. David Popenoe, co-director of Rutgers’ National Marriage Project, marriage means much more than that.“What people seem to have forgotten is one very …
How Boundaries Can Protect Your Marriage
Have you “friended” an old flame on Facebook without telling your spouse?Once you marry, is it OK to have close friends of the opposite sex?If asked to choose between going out with your friends or staying home with your spouse, which would you prefer?Do you discuss details about your marriage relationship with your parents?How you answer these questions can have a dramatic impact on your current or future marriage relationship.Most people are excited about spending the rest of their…
Keys to Effective Communication in Marriage
Research on what makes marriage work indicates that happy and healthy couples demonstrate a ratio of 5:1 positive to negative behaviors in their relationship.This means there are five times as many positive interactions between happy couples (i.e. listening, validating the other person, using soft words, expressing appreciation, affirmation, physical affection, compliments, etc.) as there are negative (i.e. raising one’s voice, stating a complaint, or expressing one’s anger).Tips for improving t…
Can a Marriage Survive an Affair?
Sally, an outdoor enthusiast, is happily married to her husband, Sam, a computer buff.* Instead of nagging Sam about not being outside with her, Sally joined a weekly hiking club to meet her need to experience the great outdoors. Sally made lots of new friends. On hikes they would talk about kids, spouses, etc.
Seasons of a Marriage
Marriage expert and creator of divorcebusting.com, Michele Weiner-Davis, and her husband Jim have been married for more than 30 years. Since Weiner-Davis is an expert, you might assume that marriage would be easy.“Expert or not, marriage is hard work,” says Weiner-Davis. “At times you consider quitting.
Top 10 Strengths of Happy Marriages
David H. Olson, founder of Life Innovations and one of the creators of the Prepare/Enrich marriage enrichment tools, has surveyed 21,501 married couples in all 50 states to identify the top ten strengths of happy marriages.Research shows the strongest couples are those who have strong communication skills, a clear sense of closeness as a couple, flexibility, personal compatibility and good conflict management skills.In strong marriages, there is a balance between separateness and togetherness. T…
Are Opposite-Sex Friends OK?
As people marry later in life, many are bringing long-term opposite-sex friendships into their marriage relationship. While the friendships were great during singlehood, in marriage, it can be hard to know if these opposite-sex friends are ok. “I think it is OK for married people to have opposite-sex friends,” says Lisa Stewart. “However, I believe…
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